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I have a self-deprecating sense of humor and as a way to break the ice, I tend to joke around a lot but a lot of the jokes are aimed at myself or my situation.The thing is I'm not sure how that comes across online.Backstory: I first began processing the idea of dating myself as I was going through a major, major breakup last year. I was in hell because I knew in my deepest deep that I was just going to have to be me. Without much of a choice, and in a last ditch effort to pull myself up from the pile of potato chip bags and Ray Lamontagne CD’s, I took myself on a date. It was the most defining relationship I’d ever been a part of; it was with a man who was the first person to ever know me- the good, the bad, and the early in the morning me (yikes). I didn’t know me and I didn’t really want to get to know me, either. And I bought myself some sour candies and a big old popcorn. And, like the “duh” billy club beat me over the head, I deeply understood that the most important relationship that I will ever have, the truly defining relationship that I can count on forever, is the one with myself. Then, somewhere a shrill voice inside me said, “WAKE UP LADY! ” And I also realized, that like any relationship, my relationship with myself would take cultivating and attention.
"Think about the secondary school child whom nobody liked, who makes fun of his shortcomings.
It was a tumultuous, terrible, wonderful, bright, miserable, enlightening, and invigorating relationship- all at once. Something about not being able to stand me or something. I didn’t know where to turn for the highs and lows I’d become so accustomed to over the years.
I didn’t know who to run to or how to distract myself from reality.
Research indicates that self-talk influences our perception of ourselves and the world.
When we disparage ourselves, our brains subconsciously take in what we’re saying as fact, no matter how offhand our comments might be. People who consistently talk down on themselves might have more trouble sustaining a healthy relationship with friends and family because they feel unworthy of being loved.